Jo Berry on Choosing Peace Over Hatred

Last week, the Dean of Southwark, Very Rev’d Dr Mark Oakley, sat down with Jo Berry CBE for a powerful conversation. Throughout this intimate podcast discussion, Jo reflected on how a devastating personal loss became the starting point for a lifelong commitment to peace, reconciliation, and bridge-building.

Jo’s story begins with an act of violence that shocked the nation. On 12 October 1984, her father, MP Sir Anthony Berry, was killed in the IRA bombing of the Brighton Hotel. The attack could have defined her life through grief and anger. Instead, it became the catalyst for a radically different response.

Speaking with honesty and compassion, Jo shared how she chose not to be consumed by bitterness. In the aftermath of trauma, she embarked on a difficult journey towards understanding, healing, and dialogue—one that would ultimately shape her vocation. That journey led to the founding of Building Bridges for Peace, the charity through which Jo works tirelessly to encourage reconciliation across deep divides. Her work brings people into conversation who might otherwise never meet, proving that empathy and listening can open doors where conflict has long kept them shut.

Throughout the conversation, the Dean explored the depth of Jo’s resilience and the courage it takes to pursue peace in the face of personal loss. He noted the profound impact her story had on everyone present, prompting reflection on how each of us might contribute—however modestly—to a more compassionate world.

Jo’s life and work stand as a compelling reminder that reconciliation is not naïve or easy, but necessary. In a world fractured by conflict, her message is clear: dialogue can heal, and bridges can be built—even after tragedy.

We invite you to listen to the full podcast episode to hear Jo’s remarkable story in her own words and to learn more about the inspiring work of Building Bridges for Peace. It is, ultimately, a call to action—for all of us to choose understanding, and to play our part in building peace where we are.